Ego & Desire Breeds Unhappiness
torn into pieces, 3:27 午後
A man asked Lord Buddha
"I want happiness"
Lord Buddha said
First remove the "I" That's EGO
Then remove "want" That's DESIRE
See now you are left with only
"HAPPINESS"
Hence, Ego & Desire Breeds Unhappinessラベル: DeSoLoGY
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Extreme dog lover - Ash part 1
torn into pieces, 11:23 午後
Once, there's this friend of mine saying, a dog love can't be a bad ass... How true is it?
My boy, ash, is coming to 9... he is still as active and playful, however as years passed... I got more and more worried... just afraid that one day he will leave me and know for sure... this day will come (at least a higher percentage that he will leave before me)... I dont know what will happen to me...
Especially when sis moved out of the house, ash become more attached to me each day... Thou this boy of me don't stay in a big house, have many doggy companions at home.. but i'll say he is one of those lucky pup out there. The family love him, be in my dad or my mum... he do put in his effort being a very nice pet of the family... this funny boy will do silly things like stealing my parent's house slippers, not able to find the rubber bony when I play fetch with him... trying his luck to run away from home when the door is open...
Runaway Dog
I can still remember the time when I saw this doggy at the lift lobby while I sending my love, Zen, to the elevator.. I was thinking: "wow! this dog really look so much like my ash boi". Have a better look at it, it is my boy!!! shock the hell outta me.. I quickly fetch him back home... and worse ever, just one day before my sis's wedding day, we held a gathering at our place... The door is kept open as there so many visitor coming to the house... and at a moment, ash is no where to be seen! Fear of losing our boy, we went up and down the block, even the void deck, the multi-storey carpark, the park... with tears in my eyes, i keep praying "ash.. please come back to me... i can't do without u... please be safe... please come back..." and after a search of probably 2 or 3 hours, Zen manage to find me at the end of the level 6 corridor... the mischevious boy is waving his tails when he saw him... hugging him really tight, just couldn't stop tearing... I really can't imagine what will happen to me if he leave...
and this act of him, make him famous in my neighbourhood, he is then known as 'the runaway dog'... Zzz...
Taking care of the Boy
Ash is a Shih Tzu, but he don't look like a pure breed. he is slightly bigger in size, his nose is not as short, he don't have crossed eyes (which many many shih tzu I saw have it) so i believe he is probably a maltese-shih tzu mixed...
A little tips from Dogs 101, dogs with short dog tend to get tired and is lazier than dogs with sharp nose.. So ash is consider as lazy... he sleep more of the time and makes a good pet for a typical HDB flat which there isn't much space for him to run around... The long fur coat require much grooming which can be rather costly at times... frequent brushing and combing is absolutely need to keep his coat tangle-free... I try to make a point to brush his coat everyday when its long to the extend that it get tangle easily... he love the brushing session a lot... his eyes tend to tears at time, cleaning with eye solution and feeding him with supplement to control excessive tear will help him to be free of ugly tear stain...
*shall be continue*
As he aged...
I'll say whoever who wants a pet dog have to really consider on the responsiblilties involve in getting one... it might be cute, but its just like a human baby, it make noise, cry, pee, shit, playful, destructive, the hazzle of keeping it in good condition, his health, be it mentally or physically... its alot alot of effort! but once u know the reason for doing all this, you will just do it unconditionally.. Just like me... am a super lazy bum, thanks to my lovely mum who does everything for me, cook me food, wash my laundry, iron my clothes, change my bedsheets... until I got this dog (so not easy to get my mum's approval - to be share in future post), I cherish him... so much that I will clear his poo and pee as i told myself "u want him, u must do these chores". As he age, I begin to worry about his well-being, I will check out the supplements, feed him regularly, check on his coat, eyes, ears,etc. The more I spend my days with him, the love get deeper and deeper... I saw post on people giving their old pets which is at the age of 9 or 10, it totally pain me and puzzle me. How these bloody idiots bear to give their pet away when they had been by their side for the past years... Just become they are old, and these people find the pet troublesome to take care of or the increase in cost to maintain the pets? I don't understand... for me, I can't! totally not able to do it! even if one day it faces health issue, it still have to be with me... Its not just a dog but the dog, the loyalty that no one can replace... and ya... I'll love him forever...
my ash when he is 8...
ラベル: Dogs
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Goodness me... Its rotten...
torn into pieces, 5:49 午後
Oh gosh! when I login to blogger, I smell a stink.. its my blog page got rotten! Oh gosh.. its have been left in the open space for far too long... no updates.. no nothing... (even my body had went out of shape, how can my blog page stay fresh without updated?!)
My Cbox been flood by nonsense people...
Life have been rather down to earth these days... not as youthful as b4, not as adventurous, not as energetic... no more late night clubbings... just enjoying the simplest bliss with my love and my family... Things have changed, age had took control over me... skin are aging, fine lines are appearing, Fats are hard to be shaken off, tummy getting bloated... Zzz...
Still, DeSoLoGy will still works.. It born within, just react naturally.. non-stop analysing human behaviour... making a sense out of everything, every reaction of individuals... trying to understand people, trying to understand the logic behind each action or rather the mindset.. but afterall it mine and my own analysis... take it or leave it, its totally up to you...
By understanding, I try to improve myself.. but no one is perfect... There is still a part of me who is been jealousy, envious over some others life...being Ignorant and arrogant... Still trying to stay in my own comfort zone... however... I'll share every little thing, every little thots.. and yup.. I'll have to probably keep this fresh!
*Stay Tune*
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犀利人妻
torn into pieces, 12:12 午後
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simplicity
torn into pieces, 11:03 午前
Ewww... clearing off all the cob webs...
Well... nothing special in life... everything were just simple, ordinary... ordinary sweet...
its been a yr since the blog been abandone...
life for me had totally changed... perphaps it growing up...
group of frens change, worklife change, love life change, mentality change...
finally found someone who can be trusted, can be lean on... believing in love, believing in marriage... everyday just me & u, me & u, me & u...
no more clubbing... no more aimlessly hanging around...
just work... slp... rest... tv, movie, food...
perphaps this is the simplicity that am always looking out for... *bliss*
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I.T. Guru
torn into pieces, 1:04 午前
u will nv believe that am jus really so crazy abt jay chou... finally i got the tix... hee... thru M1... subscribe to a new mobile contract plus a home broadband bring u a pair of jay's concert tix... thou its miserable $98 seats but better den nth at all..
and it gave me a chance to visit sim lim... cos M1 broadband dun come wif router... and i seriously can't live without a router... well, spend $50+ on a router and $70 on a external DVD writer... urgh... in case u guys wonder y i get a dvd writer, it due to a great fall for my lappy, my internal dvd drive become faulty... and ya... after so many mths i decided to do something...
anyway, its so interesting out there... and only den i realize... I was been cheated for money some times back in Sim Lim... tat bloody guy who i bought the bloody ex DS charger from, who den also charge me damn ex for the screen protector and clear case... he try to cheat me by asking me to replace my R4 wif R4 upgrade and claim tat the old R4 not outdated and can't play those latest DS games... today when i head back to the same shop, another guy told me that its a total bullshit! oh damn it... curse tat rubbish man... no wonder when i ask for R4 upgrade ppl give me that 'question mark' face... ended up i ask abt wii... having a big headache whether to take a mod set or not... mod set can play downloaded games but easily damage... but leave it till later, not gonna get it so soon...
and so wat's the 'in' thing now...? they got this thumb drive size device which allow u to gain access to china tv channel, tw channels, movies, etc, on ur comp... $150++
and the other device, something like a SCV cable which connect to ur tv set and stream movie thru the network... tat cost ard $250++
am rather tempted to get another device which is the media player, it connect your tv set to ur hard disk, so u can watch all downloaded clip thru TV and no more staring @ lappy screen... cheapest @ $39 but i spent enough for all these so shall give it a miss..
lastly, do check out sim lim for all the new technology... interesting indeed...
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Selfishness
torn into pieces, 1:09 午後
Lagi f**king dulan... kns... beh tahan all the selfish fuck at work... not the 1st time... information not pass down den end up, who take the blame, who face the stupid music...
rubbish wking environment... simply sux lah... system not welly establish and yet such a big organization still practise like those stupid fuck up mini contractor firm... jus a kns plc sia... lucky am on contract... after one yr, i'll jus leave the plc, and throw the whole junk back to who tat deserve most... wat the hell sia...
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Little lizards make big money
torn into pieces, 4:21 午後
JAKARTA - A TINY Indonesian lizard has become big business for impoverished villagers in Indonesia, where growing Asian demand for reptile-based traditional medicines has driven a boom in gecko farming.
Geckos - the pale, soft-skinned lizard with a distinctive call - are abundant in Indonesia and are believed by Chinese and Korean traditional medicine devotees to help cure cancer as well as skin and respiratory diseases.
In rural Banjarsawah village, on the eastern half of Java island, struggling farmers have discovered geckos make a surprisingly lucrative commodity. Tohasyim, 32, a farmhand who earns 10,000 rupiah (S$1.39) a day feeding other people's cattle, now makes 1 million rupiah or about US$110 a month hunting geckos in a local forest.
'I start hunting the geckos in the evening after I finish my job, feeding other people's cattle. I normally start hunting the geckos at 6 in the evening until 5 in the morning,' said Tohasyim, who, like many Indonesians, has only one name.
The industry began four years ago when one villager, Abdurrahman, began drying geckos at home and selling them to an exporter. Now, more than 100 hunters scour the forest nightly catching the skittering lizards and delivering them to Abdurrahman, 40, who delivers them to the exporter.
Most villagers in Banjarsawah are now involved in dried gecko production. Hunters venture into the forest in groups of four or five, wearing battery-powered head lamps and catching the lizards with their gloved hands. About a dozen workers, mostly housewives, spend days stretching, drying, and packing the lizards. They often work from 7 in the morning to 4 in the afternoon in the dark woven bamboo house of the industry's owner. When demand is high, they work even longer. These workers earn about 20,000 rupiah per day. -- REUTERS
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Year 2010
torn into pieces, 3:49 午後
wow... tats fast... a yr gone... what can i say... a pretty tough year that i hav been thru'... the poorest year of my life... but still its not the worse... at least i experience how is it like to build ur own empire, thou' i din really succeed but i dun see myself as a loser... cos i gain experience that no one does... at least i tried, tats y no regret... not been spending like i did in the past years... again... desolo had always a lot of wants tat are un-fulfilled... i guess i should stick on to my career for the time being... as for biz... i prefer to do it as an interest or passion rather den a money earning tools... i guess the best i got from 2009 is that i got myself a guy who may not be the best but just the right person... jus so many things tat i prefer to keep it to myself den to share... so wassup for 2010? so many new yr resolution... thou' it come a little late but yup.. still not too late... there u goes:
DeSoLo's new yr resolution:
1. To travel to Jakarta, visit my inker gang... (which definitely will come thru in Apr)
2. To lose weight (which am doing so but still working on it)
3. To Learn driving
4. To pick up foreign language (should be Indonesia Bahasa, so that i can communicate with my tattooists)
5. To start joint saving with Dar, at least a $250 each per mth for marriage.
6. To go for makeover photo shoot with Ash & Dar
7. To go for my graduation family photo shoot
8. To complete my 2 tattoos: Gecko & Libra lady (am tired of all my 80% in progress work, i got to be stronger & bear the pain)
9. To expand my back tattoo
10. To renovate my room (tat hav to wait till sis moved out)
11. To travel to one of the beach hotel with dar
So far it should be jus that... other plans will be my life plan...
still considering... should i go into interior design? pick up professional photography? learn inking so as to bring my group of inkers to SG?
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Instructions For Life
torn into pieces, 1:51 午前
§ Give
people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
§ Memorize your favorite poem.
§ Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
§ When you say, “I love you”, mean it.
§ When you say, “I’m sorry”, look the person in the eye.
§ Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
§ Believe in love at first sight.
§ Never laugh at anyone’s dreams.
§ Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.
§ In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
§ Don’t judge people by their relatives.
§ Talk slowly but think quickly.
§ When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, “Why do you want to know?”
§ Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
§ Call your mom.
§ Say “bless you” when you hear someone sneeze.
§ When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
§ Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.
§ Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
§ When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
§ Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
§ Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
§ Spend some time alone.
§ Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
§ Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
§ Read more books and watch less TV.
§ Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll get to enjoy it a second time.
§ Trust in God but lock your car.
§ A loving atmosphere in your home is so important. Do all you can to create a tranquil harmonious home.
§ In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
§ Read between the lines.
§ Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
§ Be gentle with the earth.
§ Pray. There’s immeasurable power in it.
§ Never interrupt when you are being flattered.
§ Mind your own business.
§ Don’t trust a man/woman who doesn’t close his/her eyes when you kiss.
§ At least once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
§ If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. That is wealth’s greatest satisfaction.
§ Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck.
§ Learn the rules then break some.
§ Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.
§ Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
§ Remember that your character is your destiny.
§ Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.
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What A Dog Teaches
torn into pieces, 1:44 午前
A dog teaches us a lot of things, but we never seem to take notice. These are some
of the lessons you might learn…
· When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.
· Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride.
· Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure ecstasy.
· When it’s in your best interest, practice obedience.
· Let others know when they’ve invaded your territory.
· Take naps and stretch before rising.
· Run romp and play daily.
· Thrive on attention and let people touch you.
· Avoid biting, when a simple growl will do.
· On warm days stop to lie on your back on the grass. On hot days drink lots of water and lay under a shady tree.
· When you’re happy dance around and wag your entire body.
· No matter how often you’re scolded don’t buy into the guilt thing and pout. Run
right back and make friends.
· Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.
· Eat with gusto and enthusiasm, stop when you have had enough.
· Be loyal.
· Never pretend to be something you’re not.
· If what you want lies buried dig until you find it.
· When someone is having a bad day be silent, sit close by… and nuzzle them gently.
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10 Principles for Peace of Mind
torn into pieces, 1:38 午前
1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked:
Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of
God.. God has created each one of us in a unique way.
No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.
2. Forgive And Forget:
This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive,20Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.
3. Do Not Crave For Recognition:
This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yourself in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.
4. Do Not Be Jealous:
We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No.
Remember everybody's life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.
5. Change Yourself According To The Environment:
If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.
6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured:
This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.
7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:
This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and
meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.
8. Meditate Regularly:
Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before.
You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.
9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:
An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name.
10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret:
Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done.
It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Why cry over spilt milk?.
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Tips For Better Life
torn into pieces, 1:27 午前
1. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.
2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
3. Sleep for 7 hours.
4. Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
5. Play more games.
6. Read more books than you did the previous year.
7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.
8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
9. Dream more while you are awake.
10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
11. Drink plenty of water.
12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
13. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.
14. Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
15. Don’t have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
16. Realise that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
17. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
18. Smile and laugh more.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.
20. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
21. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
22. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
23. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Don’t compare your partner with others.
24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
25. Forgive everyone for everything.
26. What other people think of you is none of your business.
27. GOD heals everything.
28. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
29. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
30. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
31. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
32. The best is yet to come.
33. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
34. Do the right thing!
35. Call your family often.
36. Your inner most is always happy. So be happy.
37. Each day give something good to others.
38. Don’t over do. Keep your limits.
39. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
40. Don’t be more calculative in your life for all things.
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